What is Domestic Abuse?
Official UK Government definition of Domestic Abuse
"Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse:
Domestic Abuse is any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship. But it isn’t just physical violence, domestic abuse can be any emotional, physical, sexual, financial or psychological abuse. It can happen in any relationship, even after the relationship has ended. Both men and women can be abused or the abusers.
Controlling behaviour is: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Types of Domestic Abuse
Domestic Abuse can include (This list is not exhaustive):
- Punching, kicking, cutting, hitting, spitting
- Sexual Abuse and rape
- Withholding money or preventing someone from earning money
- Isolation from friends and family
- Reading texts, letters, social networks and expecting passwords
- Threatening to harm or kill a family pet
- Threatening to hurt themselves
Teenagers Experiencing Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse can happen in any relationship, it is important to note that teenagers can also suffer domestic abuse in their relationships.
They may not realise that what is happening is abuse. Even if they do, they might not tell anyone about it because they're scared of what will happen, or ashamed about what people will think.
1 in 5 teenagers have been physically abused by their boyfriends or girlfriend.
In an emergency situation, call 999 and ask for the Police.
What support can Shine offer?
Here at Shine we have a broad range of knowledge and expertise to support victims and survivors of domestic abuse including raising awareness, reducing risk, providing support and helping victims and their families towards recovery.
Our Shine workers will work with you one-to-one to create safety and support plans specifically for you. The workers are able to help anyone at risk of abuse, whether they want to leave their relationship or work to stay together safely. The Shine workers will always meet people in a place where they feel the most safe.
We can help you with housing and legal issues, support you to access benefits and finding schools and childcare. We can help you to get specialist support if you are affected by drug or alcohol misuse. We can also access an interpreter if it’s needed.
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Local organisations who can help
Newcastle Women's Aid - Freephone 0800 923 2622 or 0191 265 2148
24 hour safe, emergency accommodation for women and children fleeing domestic violence and / or experiencing abuse and control. Outreach service also offers telephone support, advice and advocacy.
NIDAS (Newcastle Integrated Domestic Abuse Service) - tel: 0191 214 6501/ email: Nidas.Team@thirteengroup.co.uk
provides specialist accommodation and support to anyone experiencing domestic abuse in Newcastle.
Victim Support - 0191 281 3791 or 0191 295 4958
Independent Domestic Violence Advisor (IDVA) Service Independent Sexual Violence Advisor (ISVA) Confidential advice and support for victims of domestic and sexual violence and abuse, including male victims, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.
EDAN (Ending Domestic Abuse in Newcastle) Outreach Service - 07501 227 780 or 07501 227 820
Confidential outreach and support service for female victims of domestic violence and abuse.
The Angelou Centre - 0191 226 0394
Support, practical advice and help on issues relating to domestic violence and abuse, including honour based violence and forced marriage and a children’s service. Workers in the centre can speak a number of community languages including Urdu, Punjabi, Hindi, Arabic and French.
Rape Crisis Tyneside and Northumberland - 0191 222 0272 (general enquiries)
0800 035 2794 (helpline Tues, Wed, Thurs 6pm-8.30pm)
Information, support and counselling for women aged 16 and over who have been raped or sexually abused.