What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic Abuse is any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship. But it isn’t just physical violence, domestic abuse can be any emotional, physical, sexual, financial or psychological abuse.

It can happen in any relationship, even after the relationship has ended. Both men and women can be abused or the abusers.

Witnessing domestic abuse is child abuse, Domestic abuse can seriously harm children and young people and impact on their adult lives. It is important to note that teenagers can also suffer domestic abuse in their relationships.

Types of Domestic Abuse
Domestic Abuse can include (This list is not exhaustive):

  • Punching, kicking, cutting, hitting, spitting
  • Sexual Abuse and rape
  • Withholding money or preventing someone from earning money  
  • Isolation from friends and family
  • Reading texts, letters, social networks and expecting passwords
  • Threatening to harm or kill a family pet
  • Threatening to hurt themselves

Teenagers Experiencing Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse can happen in any relationship, and it affects young people too.

They may not realise that what is happening is abuse. Even if they do, they might not tell anyone about it because they're scared of what will happen, or ashamed about what people will think.

1 in 5 teenager have been physically abused by their boyfriends or girlfriends.

1 in 5 teenagers have been physically abused by their boyfriends or girlfriend.

Official definition of Domestic Abuse

The UK Government defines domestic abuse as:

"Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse:
  • psychological
  • physical
  • sexual
  • financial
  • emotional

Controlling behaviour is: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour

Coercive behaviour is: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.*

*This definition, which is not a legal definition, includes so called ‘honour’ based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage, and is clear that victims are not confined to one gender or ethnic group."
(Home Office, 2013)

In an emergency situation, call 999 and ask for the Police.

Local organisations who can help

In Newcastle other than here at SHINE we have a broad range of services to support victims and survivors of domestic violence including raising awareness, reducing risk, providing support and moving victims and their families towards recovery.

Newcastle Women's Aid - Freephone 0800 923 2622 or 0191 265 2148
24 hour safe, emergency accommodation for women and children fleeing domestic violence and / or experiencing abuse and control.  Outreach service also offers telephone support, advice and advocacy.

Panah Refuge - 0191 284 6998
Specialist project which offers safe refuge accommodation for black and minority ethnic women and their children. 

Victim Support - 0191 281 3791 or 0191 295 4958
Independent Domestic Violence Advisor (IDVA) Service Independent Sexual Violence Advisor (ISVA) Confidential advice and support for victims of domestic and sexual violence and abuse, including male victims, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. 

The Safe Project - 0191 273 4942
Practical and emotional support and advice to victims and survivors of domestic violence and abuse.  Also provide specialist support for victims and survivors of honour based violence and forced marriage. 

EDAN (Ending Domestic Abuse in Newcastle) Outreach Service - 07501 227 780 or 07501 227 820
Confidential outreach and support service for female victims of domestic violence and abuse. 

The Angelou Centre - 0191 226 0394
Support, practical advice and help on issues relating to domestic violence and abuse, including honour based violence and forced marriage and a children’s service.  Workers in the centre can speak a number of community languages including Urdu, Punjabi, Hindi, Arabic and French. 

Rape Crisis Tyneside and Northumberland - 0191 222 0272 (general enquiries)
0800 035 2794 (helpline Tues, Wed, Thurs 6pm-8.30pm)
Information, support and counselling for women aged 16 and over who have been raped or sexually abused.

Housing Advice Centre
Can find you emergency accomodation and provide specific help and support, working with a wide range of agencies to provide you with assistance.
Phone: 0191 277 1711
Monday to Friday, 8.30am to 12 noon and 1pm to 4.30pm
Email: housingadvicecentre@newcastle.gov.uk 

Out of hours: 0191 278 7878
Monday to Friday, 5.30pm to 8am
Saturday and Sunday, 8am to 8am (24 hours) 

Housing Advice Centre
112 - 114 Pilgrim Street
Newcastle upon Tyne, NE1 6SQ

Drop in opening hours
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday, 10am to 12 noon and 1pm to 4pm
Wednesday, 1pm to 4pm 

Domestic Violence Protection Project (DVPP) - 0191 240 4800
This project works with male abusers who want to change their violent behaviour.  The programme offers men the opportunity to look at their abusive behaviour and learn new ways of thinking.  The project can also work with women if their ex/partner is participating in the programme. 

Protecting Vulnerable People (PVP) Unit - 101 Northumbria Police
The PVP Unit leads on issues relating to child abuse, domestic violence and abuse, rape investigations, management of dangerous offenders (MAPPA) and the protection of vulnerable adults

National organisations who can help
Contact any of the following organisations to get help and advice about domestic abuse.

English National Domestic Violence Helpline - 0808 2000 247

Wales Domestic Abuse Helpline
0808 80 10 800

Women’s Aid Federation (Northern Ireland)
0800 917 1414

Scottish Women’s Aid
0800 027 1234

National Centre for Domestic Violence
0844 8044 999

Men’s Advice Line
0808 801 0327

Broken Rainbow (for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people)
0800 999 5428